Motherhood is beautiful, messy, and chaotic. It’s beautiful because of Christ’s example. It’s messy because of our sinful nature. It’s chaotic because it’s a teaching tool.
Motherhood is a wonderful time of growth and development and one of the magical things is that once we become mothers, we never stop being mothers. In fact, you have been designed as a mother since birth! We as women are designed by our creator as nurturers. We are designed to care for, love, and nurture the world around us.
In the realm of Christian faith, the beauty of motherhood is deeply intertwined with the joy of pursuing creativity as a reflection of God’s divine plan. A new mother is entrusted with the precious responsibility of nurturing and guiding her own children. In the midst of the hectic day and the middle-of-the-night feedings, the margins of motherhood become sacred spaces where love for God and family coalesce. It is within these margins that a young woman discovers the real beauty of her role as a mother.
Yet often in the chaos and mess of motherhood, we forget how beautiful it is. Motherhood is beautiful!
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Motherhood is beautiful, messy, and chaotic. It’s beautiful because of Christ’s example. It’s messy because of our sinful nature. It’s chaotic because it’s a teaching tool.
Motherhood is a wonderful time of growth and development and one of the magical things is that once we become mothers, we never stop being mothers. In fact, you have been designed as a mother since birth! We as women are designed by our creator as nurturers. We are designed to care for, love, and nurture the world around us.
Yet often in the chaos and mess of motherhood, we forget how beautiful it is.
Motherhood is beautiful, but why is it beautiful? I am a millennial mom, which means that I often look through the scope of motherhood through reels and stories (social media). Now I’m generalizing, but I think we all get trapped in the comparison game sometimes, it doesn’t have to be through social media, it could be through a friend or just watching another mom at Target with children who are behaving while yours climb on shelves! Instagram can be a curse or a blessing and often when I’m looking at the lens of motherhood, all I see are pretty pictures, perfect white picket fences, and color-coordinating children.
What am I doing wrong? My kids have boogers plastered to their faces from yesterday. I am lucky to get through a shower without a child coming in and peeking through the glass. Color coordinating? Yeah right.
Motherhood is beautiful because of God’s plan for it.
I think it is safe to say that two of the most sanctifying things we will go through in life are marriage and parenting. Sanctification can look very messy from the outside, but it is ultimately beautiful as we draw nearer to our savior.
View my personal story on the beauty of motherhood on the Healing Home YouTube channel below! You will see our real life as we journey through the week and I think through the concept of beautiful motherhood.
As Christian moms, we see motherhood as a servant role. We are full-time nurturers and full-time missionaries to our children. We pour love into our children and we mirror the love God has for His creations. There will be hard days, especially during those early childhood moments. However, God’s grace is available to you and should remind mothers that even in the midst of challenges, they are not alone. You can be God’s unwavering love to your families. Mothers can be the tender guides that children need to point them to Christ. You are doing holy work mama!
3 Powerful Tips When Motherhood is Beautiful, Messy, and Chaotic
We live in a fallen world. We all have messy mothering journeys. We are fallen mothers and yet have a Savior who offers forgiveness when we truly do not deserve it. As you walk your motherhood journey here are three powerful tips to remember. Your motherhood might be messy and chaotic (just like mine), the dishes may be piled high, you may lose your temper, and superheroes, robots, dolls, and Barbies might litter your floor at times, but in the midst of it all, I want you to also remember that motherhood is beautiful.
In the realm of social media, where curated images often dominate our screens, it’s crucial to celebrate the raw and unfiltered beauty of motherhood. Beyond the picture-perfect snapshots lies a profound and authentic journey that unfolds in beautiful moments. For new moms navigating the path of motherhood for the first time, the experience can be both exhilarating and overwhelming. From the sleepless nights to the tender cuddles with their little girl or young children, every moment is a testament to the wonderful gift of life.
1. Motherhood is Messy Because of Our Sinful Nature
Motherhood is messy because we have been born into a sinful world and we as humans are sinful people. Our motherhood is tainted with sin, most likely every day. Have you ever dealt with irrational anger? I have and it certainly does not feel good. Sometimes one more crashing noise of toy trucks is enough to put me over the edge when I’ve had a tense day. My favorite people in this world are my children, but that also means that they know exactly how to push me over the edge. The everyday moments of motherhood are often beautiful, but also often tainted with sin.
Mom’s rage needs to be talked about in a Biblical manner more often because it’s a reality that we face but can be difficult in our picturesque Christian circles to open up about. You are not alone if your tongue has been let loose on your children and instant regret has set in. Take a deep breath, not only are you not alone, but there is hope as we struggle through the beauty of motherhood.
The beauty of motherhood extends beyond the external, transcending societal expectations. Stretch marks become visible reminders of the miraculous journey a woman undergoes to bring a new human being into the world. For young moms bravely stepping into this role, each deep breath signifies strength and resilience. Those middle of the night feedings are weary, but they can also be a gift as we use those times to pray to our The gentle invitation to share these intimate and personal stories creates a supportive community where the beautiful blend of stories weaves a tapestry of shared experiences.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
James 1:19-20 ESV
Each motherhood journey is unique, and guess what? Each mothering journey with each child you have is going to be unique as well. No two children are going to behave exactly the same. It might just drive you mad, but most likely your children will not even respond to the same discipline in the same way.
If you are trying to compare your motherhood to someone else, stop.
Does your sister or cousin seem to have it all together? I guarantee her situation is different than yours. Do you wish to be a stay-at-home mom, but have the responsibilities of a working mom? Don’t you dare compare your journey to a stay-at-home-homeschool-mom? Your journeys are 100% different. Both are beautiful, but you cannot compare each other. Life changes and one day you may be in a different situation, but in this moment don’t compare yourself to someone else’s journey.
Once you release comparisons and unrealistic expectations, you can finally find the courage to victoriously live in the fact that motherhood is beautiful.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
Proverbs 31:25 ESV
This leads us to one of the most freeing things that I will write in this post: no mom is perfect, but we serve a perfect savior!
Consequently, he is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.
Hebrews 7:25
Your motherhood journey will not be perfect, but when we aim our affection and love toward Christ, we can find peace and happiness in our parenting journey.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
2 Corinthians 12:9
2. Motherhood is Chaotic Because it is a Teaching Tool
Have you ever thought of your mothering journey as your greatest teaching tool? There are so many beautiful moments in motherhood, but there are also messy moments, especially for new moms!
As you are building your home and building upon your mothering experience, you will find that God creating you as a nurturer and protector of the home can be one of your greatest teaching tools in drawing nearer to Christ.
Let’s take into consideration the Fruits of the Spirit. If I were going to be truthful, I would say that the Fruits of the Spirit came pretty naturally to me until roughly 2018 when my first child was born. That was when a whole new season of growth started to challenge my patience, joy, peace, and gentleness; just to name a few.
Have you noticed that spiritual things that used to come naturally, tend to be challenged more frequently in parenting? These things are a blessing and teaching tool that God uses to develop sanctification in his children. As we are teaching, molding, and shaping our children, God is using those moments to teach, mold, and shape us.
Next time the chaos of motherhood starts to defeat you, remember that these chaotic times can be one of the greatest blessings that God uses to shape you into the mother he created you to be.
3. Motherhood is Beautiful Because of Christ’s Example
Finally, and probably most important. Motherhood is beautiful because of Christ’s example. The gospel of Jesus Christ flows through every single part of our lives, including our mothering. Because I have been forgiven by the power of Jesus Christ I am now dead to my sin and alive in Christ. I get to model that to my children.
We certainly do not model it perfectly, but by God’s grace, we have the blessing of being instruments of God’s sacrificial love to our children. That is truly beautiful.
What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? 3 Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.
Romans 6:1-4
Thinking Properly About Beautiful Motherhood
Here are a few books grace-filled devotions and books that have shaped and helped me think more properly about my motherhood:
Parenting by Paul David Tripp
Our own parenting journeys will all be different and imperfect and I appreciate that Paul David Tripp acknowledges that. He also really provides a gospel look at parenting. I recommend not only reading this book once but as many times as possible! If you are pregnant get a copy of this timely book and begin to dive into it, I wish all Christian mothers could read it!
Real Moms, Real Jesus by Jill Savage
Risen Motherhood by Emily Jenson and Laura Wifler
Give them Grace by Elyse Fitzpatrick
Motherhood is Beautiful
If you are a mother today, you have been given the gift of a home that is messy, chaotic, and beautiful. Embrace the time that you have with your children and lean into the power of the gospel and the redemptive work that Jesus can do in your life. Motherhood is beautiful!
In the cacophony of advice and expectations, let us pause to appreciate the beauty of motherhood in its entirety. Every smile, every tear, and every challenge met with unwavering love contribute to the mosaic of a mother’s journey. As we honor the diverse narratives of motherhood, may we collectively recognize that the beauty lies not only in the picture-perfect moments but in the messy, unpredictable, and deeply human experiences that make this journey truly extraordinary.
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