Motherhood is beautiful, messy, and chaotic. It's beautiful because of Christ's example. It's messy because of our sinful nature. It's chaotic because it's a teaching tool.
Motherhood is a wonderful time of growth and development and one of the magical things is that once we become mothers, we never stop being mothers. In fact, you have been designed as a mother since birth! We as women are designed by our creator as nurturers. We are designed to care, love, and nurture the world around us.
Yet often in the chaos and mess of motherhood, we forget how beautiful it is.
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Motherhood is beautiful, but why is it beautiful? I am a millennial mom, which means that I often look through the scope of motherhood through reels and stories. Instagram can be a curse or a blessing and often when I'm looking at the lens of motherhood, all I see are pretty pictures, perfect white picket fences, and color coordinating children.
What am I doing wrong? My kids have boogers plastered to their faces from yesterday. I am lucky to get through a shower without a child coming in peeking through the glass. Color coordinating? Yeah right.
Motherhood is beautiful because of God's plan for it.
I think it is safe to say that two of the most sanctifying things we will go through in life are marriage and parenting. Sanctification can look very messy from the outside, but it is ultimately beautiful as we draw nearer to our savior.
3 Powerful Tips When Motherhood is Beautiful, Messy, and Chaotic
We live in a fallen world. We are fallen mothers, and yet have a Savior that offers forgiveness when we truly do not deserve it. As you walk your motherhood journey here are three powerful tips to remember. Your motherhood might be messy and chaotic (just like mine), the dishes may be piled high, you may lose your temper, superheroes, robots, dolls, and Barbies might litter your floor at times, but in the midst of it all, I want you to also remember that motherhood is beautiful.
Motherhood is Messy Because of our Sinful Nature
Motherhood is messy because we have been born into a sinful world and we as humans are sinful people. Our motherhood is tainted with sin, most likely every day. Have you ever dealt with irrational anger? I have and it certainly does not feel good. Sometimes one more crashing noise of toy trucks is enough to put me over the edge when I've had a tense day.
Mom rage needs to be talked about in a Biblical manner more often because it's a reality that we face but can be difficult in our picturesque Christian circles to open up about.
Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God.James 1:19-20 ESV
Motherhood is Unique
Each motherhood journey is unique, and guess what? Each mothering journey with each child you have is going to be unique as well. No two children are going to behave exactly the same. It might just drive you mad, but most likely your children will not even respond to the same disciple in the same way.
If you are trying to compare your motherhood to someone else, stop.
Does your sister or cousin seem to have it all together? I guarantee her situation is different than yours? Do you wish to be a stay-at-home mom, but have the responsibilities of a working mom? Don't you dare compare your journey to a stay-at-home-homeschool-mom? Your journeys are 100% different. Both are beautiful, but you cannot compare each other.
Once you release comparisons and unrealistic expectations, you can finally find the courage to victoriously live in the fact that motherhood is beautiful.
Strength and dignity are her clothing, and she laughs at the time to come.
Proverbs 31:25 ESV
No Mom is Perfect
This leads us to one of the most freeing things that I will write in this post: no mom is perfect, but we serve a perfect savior!
Consequently, he is able to save to the uttermost those who draw near to God through him, since he always lives to make intercession for them.Hebrews 7:25
Your motherhood journey will not be perfect, but when we aim our affections and love toward Christ, we can find peace and happiness in our parenting journey.
But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly of my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest upon me.2 Corinthians 12:9
Motherhood is Chaotic Because it is a Teaching Tool
Have you ever thought of your mothering journey as your greatest teaching tool?
As you are building your home and building upon your mothering experience, you will find that God creating you as a nurturer and protector of the home can be one of your greatest teaching tools in drawing nearer to Christ.
Let's take into consideration the Fruits of the Spirit. If I was going to be truthful, I would say that the Fruits of the Spirit came pretty naturally to me until roughly 2018 when my first child was born. That was when a whole new season of growth started to challenge my patience, joy, peace, and gentleness; just to name a few.
Have you noticed that spiritual things that used to come naturally, tend to be challenged more frequently in parenting? These things are a blessing and teaching tool that God uses to develop sanctification in his children. As we are teaching, molding, and shaping our children, God is using those moments to teach, mold, and shape us.
Next time the chaos of motherhood starts to defeat you, remember that these chaotic times can be one of the greatest blessings that God uses to shape you into a be
Motherhood is Beautiful Because of Christ's Example
Finally, and probably most important. Motherhood is beautiful because of Christ's example. The gospel of Jesus Christ flows through every single part of our lives, including our mothering. Because I have been forgiven by the power of Jesus Christ I am now dead to my sin and alive in Christ. I get to model that to my children.
We certainly do not model it perfectly, but by God's grace, we have the blessing of being instruments of God's sacrificial love to our children. That is truly beautiful.
What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? 2 By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it? 3 Do you not know that all of us who have been baptized into Christ Jesus were baptized into his death? 4 We were buried therefore with him by baptism into death, in order that, just as Christ was raised from the dead by the glory of the Father, we too might walk in newness of life.Romans 6:1-4
Motherhood and Faith
If you are a mother today, you have been given the gift of a home that is messy, chaotic, and beautiful. Embrace the time that you have with your children and lean into the power of the gospel and the redemptive workk that Jesus can do in your life. Motherhood is beautiful!